http://unclutterer.com/discuss/forum/questions The community for people interested in home and office organizing. en-US Mon, 13 Feb 2012 13:24:54 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://unclutterer.com/discuss/search.php http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/my-sister-in-law-story#post-42801 Fri, 06 Jan 2012 01:51:52 +0000 Irulan 42801@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Can you contact Adult Protective Services in her area? They may be able to offer some solutions in terms of mental health care or other assistance. At the very least, they can conduct welfare checks on the family.</p> <p>Also, do the conditions described by your son lead you think that the child is in immediate danger? </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/my-sister-in-law-story#post-42700 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:39:33 +0000 Rosa 42700@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Michelle, this comes up over and over. If the problem is just overwhelm, helping clean up works and the person who lives in squalor is usually pretty happy and willing. But most people in that case ask for help before they are actually in squalor. </p> <p>If the person has the mental illness that causes hoarding (whether it's OCD or something else, which professionals are still kind of up in the air about) they will respond to cleanup efforts with anger, abuse, and stonewalling, or just quickly re-hoard the area cleaned. Their family members get worn out and stop trying, much like family members of addicts and alcoholics.</p> <p>If your son wasn't exaggerating, and you think the situation is temporary (caused by grief and illness) then it's totally worth trying to help. But otherwise there might not be anything you or anyone else can do, except maybe offer the younger one a better place to stay with her baby (assuming she's not the source of the problem.) Or if you're really concerned about the baby, visit and take them places like a mall with a play area or a kid's museum or a park, where the baby can have safe space to get important developmental play. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/my-sister-in-law-story#post-42692 Thu, 05 Jan 2012 10:12:40 +0000 Michelle33 42692@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>My sister-in-law about 28 years ago was in a car accident, she hasn't been the same since. She was a young lady at the time and her legs were badly damaged. They had to put plates in her legs and she was at the age of still growing. She has had many surgeries and a lot of pain along the way. Years later she had a mini stroke due to her health with her legs. She recently lost her son to a drug over dose. Just before Christmas her only transportation her car broke down. Her brother my husband and my son helped with the cost and the repairs to her car. My son went to his aunts house to take his aunt to get things going regarding her car. My son told me later that his Aunts house was horrible and said it was liking watching an episode of Hoarders. Do you go to homes and help out families who just need a break in life. She has a daughter living with her and her grandchild. Its hard for me to say this but the daughter isn't any help and just adding more to her mother. My sister -in-law legs swell up if she is on them to long. I can't imagine if I lived with my mother and the living conditions were like that I would clean the place up. How do you raise a baby in those conditions. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33419 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 17:56:05 +0000 Laetitia in Australia 33419@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Grey bar - check; Twitter button - nope. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33385 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 09:34:15 +0000 ninakk 33385@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Laetitia, yes, <a href="http://unclutterer.com/" rel="nofollow">http://unclutterer.com/</a> I didn't know what else to call it since Home of the forum would be perceived as the first page of the discussion threads. I think the grey bar comes and goes depending on which browser you use, but underneath the Twitter button I have always found a search field. It is based on Google, so it might not produce all threads, I guess. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33382 Mon, 29 Aug 2011 08:23:49 +0000 Laetitia in Australia 33382@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>nina - I'm using Firefox - I can't see a Twitter button or a search button on the front page. Anyone else have this problem or am I just not looking in the right place? Or are you talking about the "Unclutterer Home" page, rather than the "Forum Home" page? In that case I can see the grey bar at the top with a search box on the right. Unfortunately, a search on "Search Button" did not bring up this thread. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33341 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 17:52:21 +0000 Ella 33341@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Thank you, ninakk! Ack, I had no idea!! </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33339 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 17:43:18 +0000 ninakk 33339@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>If you have a Google account open while at the same time in another tab or window searching for something via google search bar, you send information that is not encrypted, aka visible to anyone who catches the signal. Some kind of glitch in the marvellous code. In case someone is interested, I can ask dh to give me a link to the one-hour presentation that he listened to a while back on the matter. Sign out from your account or use the normal google page! </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33337 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 17:20:35 +0000 Ella 33337@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>For this site and others, I use Google Toolbar's "search site" button plus the "highlight search terms" button. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33322 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 15:46:00 +0000 Irulan 33322@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>That button shows up for me on the home page but doesn't work. Maybe it's my browser. Anyone else using Chrome have trouble using the search function? </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33309 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 12:52:10 +0000 luxcat 33309@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>I tested the search function at the Unclutterer Home page and it does indeed include topics in the Unclutterer Forum Home page. Not the most intuitive thing as it resides on a different section but it does work! </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33307 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 12:44:28 +0000 ninakk 33307@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p><strong>Hellooo... :D There is a search field on the FRONT PAGE!!! See the Twitter button? Below it. Searches both the blog and the forum.</strong> </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33304 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 12:23:16 +0000 Irulan 33304@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>I agree, a permanent search function would be very helpful. In the meantime, folks can do a regular google search for what they want and include "unclutterer.com" in their search, or access the tag cloud at unclutterer.com/discuss/tags.</p> <p>This is not assuming that any of you above don't know how to do that, it's just reference for the rest of us who may not know how to access the previous thread where this came up. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33285 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 10:07:38 +0000 EraserGirl 33285@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>actually that Wordpress Grey bar comes and goes. it was on one computer, not this one. i saw it the other day but now i don't. It's a WP function and is not embedded in the website itself, so basically it varies from person to person and browser to browser. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33282 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 10:05:50 +0000 ninakk 33282@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>front page </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/the-forum-needs-a-search-button#post-33277 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 09:19:52 +0000 eternalvoyageur 33277@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Just saying </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/more-tv-shows-discussions#post-31441 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 22:47:30 +0000 Vivace 31441@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>@Rosa: It was pretty interesting - they talked to a couple of adult children, including one they'd interviewed fifteen years before when he was still a kid living with his hoarder mom.</p> <p>@MTNgirl: Thanks for mentioning Clean House is on Netflix! I'm totally going to look for it. </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/more-tv-shows-discussions#post-31427 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 19:12:05 +0000 jbeany 31427@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>I'm a mod on another board - a health related one. Sometimes, it can be aggravatingly difficult to make what should be simple changes to an established format. We just make do the best we can... </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/more-tv-shows-discussions#post-31369 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 07:37:18 +0000 Ashura 31369@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>Oh, I want to watch Enough Already! (We don't get it where I live).<br /> I suppose starting it in the Hoarders section would be good... it did feel bad to start it there though. Oh well~ </p> http://unclutterer.com/discuss/topic/more-tv-shows-discussions#post-31347 Sat, 06 Aug 2011 23:06:35 +0000 jbeany 31347@http://unclutterer.com/discuss/ <p>I think if you just start more threads with the titles of different TV shows under the Hoarders section, people will find them. </p>